How to Feel Sexy Again After Having Babies

How to Feel Sexy Again After Having Babies

In a bit of a rut and wanting to figure out how to feel sexy again after having babies? Let’s talk about how to reconnect with your body and soul to feel sexy ASAP.

It’s totally normal to have a sex slump after kids. I mean, if you gave birth, there’s a period of time afterwards when it’s literally not safe or recommended to feel safe. Add in cluster feeding, a new body, exhaustion, overwhelm and more and it’s easy to understand why you have to relearn how to feel sexy.

These are the best ways that I’ve been able to bring my own sexy back postpartum, and they can help you learn how to be sexy again too.

(FYI. Some of the links below are affiliate links, meaning that at no additional cost to you, I make a small commission if you click through and make a purchase.)

Track your cycle

 

For most of my life, I was lucky if I jotted down in a notebook or calendar when I got my period. Each month was kind of a guessing game for me when my period would make its appearance.

It wasn’t until I starting trying to conceive that I first starting paying attention to what my body did every month.

As I started noting the different phases of my cycle each month, I was able to find a correlation between different phases of my cycle and how felt. Including when I felt extra sexy, and well… horny.

It’s no surprise that during ovulation is a time when many women will feel more inclined to get it on. I mean, it’s the one time of the month when our bodies are able to conceive. So it is basic math to put 2+2 together and realize the hormones happening in our body during ovulation encourage us to have sex.

But beyond ovulation, if you begin to track your cycle and how you are feeling at different phases, you’ll notice trends.

If you can figure out when you are usually feeling the sexiest, you can shoot for those times as date nights or late nights with your partner. How to feel sexy can be as simple as syncing up your clock.

 

Spend more time naked

 

Becoming a mom, birthing a child, means your body goes through a lot of huge changes. Even if you lose the baby weight or your postpartum belly, you probably aren’t looking or feeling exactly the same since acquiring a mombod.

Even the most confident women can feel a little shaky about getting naked and being intimate with someone at first after having a baby. You might find your postpartum body beautiful and sexy, but it might still take some time to just feel like it’s yours.

Change is hard sometimes, and when something as close to us as our body changes, it can derail our sexy vibes a bit.

So start finding ways to get more comfortable with your body, namely, be naked more.

How can you spend more time feeling what it feels like to be naked in this new mombod? Can you check yourself out in the mirror a little longer after a shower? Or take long baths instead of showers?

The point is to try to be alone with yourself without the comfort of clothing until you feel good, and that confidence can help you feel more at home in your skin.

A newfound sense of comfort in your body can easily teach you how to feel sexy again.

 

Practice self-care

It’s a lot easier to feel sexy when not only is your body well cared for, but you’re emotionally cared for too.

What do you need to feel your best?

Exercise? Lots of green smoothies? A walk outside in nature? A hot bath? A nap? A good cry?

Take care of your own basic needs and your cup will be full.

I don’t know about you, but when I’m tired and overwhelmed, sex is usually the first thing to fall to wayside. I’m just too tired!

And when it comes to self-care, this also means taking care of your physical appearance.

I am not saying you need to do anything special to be presentable enough to get it on. Rather, what can you do to your physical appearance to make yourself feel hot and attractive? The question of how to feel sexy might be as simple as some extra indulgent moisturizer.

Like, I am all about women choosing not to shave their legs or armpits, and I forgo shaving many times. But I also feel sexier when my legs are smooth and armpits hair-free. When I really want to inject some extra oomph, I get a Brazilian wax too.

Remember, this isn’t about you fulfilling some random beauty standard. It’s about you doing what feels good for you.

Pleasure yourself

And speaking of doing what feels good for you… how about you spend a little time getting reacquainted with yourself and what pleases you.

After having babies, I usually go through a phase when even if I do feel like having orgasms (self-induced or otherwise), I’m in the thick of new motherhood and just don’t have the will or energy.

In my opinion, the first place to start when reestablishing your passions is to start alone. Remind yourself of how awesome orgasms are. Wanna know how to feel sexy again? Start by learning from your own pleasure.

Reconnect emotionally

Ever feel like you and your partner are two ships passing in the night vs. lovers?

Same here.

When you have little kids, it is easy to get stuck in a rut of just co-parenting instead of romance.

So start reconnecting. It’s easier to feel like hopping back in the sack when you are feeling attracted to and comfortable with the person you plan to get busy with.

After my husband and I implemented a weekly date night, our sex life picked up tremendously. This is one of those simple recommendations that is almost a cliche at this point, but the importance of a date night can’t be overstated!

Reclaim the intimacy with your partner, and start to feel that head between you too.

Ultimately, how to feel sexy again is about reconnecting with yourself and your relationships. It might take time, so be gentle with yourself and most of… enjoy.

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My Jeans Don’t Fit, I Didn’t Lose the Baby Weight… and That’s OK

My internal battle over learning to accept and love my body rages on each day. Today I was reminded of how I never did lose the baby weight, and my jeans don’t fit.

My jeans don’t fit because my body just keeps wanting to hold onto weight even though I exercise and eat pretty damn well. I’ve been dealing with it well. I’ve been accepting and loving myself even though I didn’t lose the baby weight… then this morning happened.

My good morning was ended by the sound of a “riiiiiipppppp.”

As I knelt down to play with one of my twins, my favorite pair of jeans ripped right up the inside of my right leg.

I had noticed as I put them on this morning that they were just a smidge too tight. They weren’t quite as comfy as I remember them being even just a month or two ago.

Bummed, I threw the old jeans out after briefly considering and discarding the idea of repairing them. That’s when things just got even worse.

Pair after pair of jeans got tossed to the side as I realized it wasn’t just the one pair that was a problem. When I say my jeans don’t fit I mean jeans as in like… all of my jeans.

Not a single pair felt right. They all dug in at uncomfortable or unflattering angles. I guess I just didn’t notice so much until recently because well, I live in yoga pants like any self-respecting mom.

Right now I weigh more than I ever have in my life, besides when I was pregnant. Not only do I have “baby weight,” but I have some extra I’ve put on over the last year as well.

It’s one thing to know you’ve gained some weight. It’s another for an overstuffed pair of jeans ripping up the crotch to give you a news flash about it.

This sent me into quite a tailspin first thing in the morning. I did find a pair of jeans that somewhat fit after digging through all the clean laundry baskets for a stray pair of leggings or yoga pants to no avail.

But even that one pair that kind of fit still made me feel like I had to really squeeze in and suck in just about all day.

Did I mention this all happened before a single sip of coffee had hit my lips?

Look, first world problems, I know. No coffee and no clothes that are 100% comfy. There are so many people out there who have it way worse than my chubby butt does, but once acknowledging that, it still doesn’t erase the real pain that hits me when body image issues arise within me.

Since my early teen years, I’ve struggled with body image and disordered eating.

I remember being a varsity athlete in High School and still shoveling down diet pills and restricting my food because I didn’t look like Britney Spears. Literally.

Thinking about it now, it sounds absurd. But the shame over what I perceived to be a terrible and ugly body was real, and it’s still real to this day.

If I had a dollar for every time I’ve seen a mom in a group ask how to lose the baby weight when she literally just had a baby drop out of her vagina a week ago… I’d be able to at least buy a few salted caramel mocha fraps.

Seriously though, the expectations on us to try to morph a body that went through an enormous transformation back into some semblance of what it was before another human inhabited it is ludicrous. Yet it is still real.

When I was pregnant with my first I just couldn’t fathom how I would deal with getting stretch marks. Like my brain couldn’t handle that possibility because NO ONE in my life or in the media ever made it seem normal to have stretch marks. The only thing I ever saw were women decrying their lost bodies and the baby weight and belly pudge that wouldn’t budge.

There isn’t a single time I can remember a single person praising a woman’s body except for its power to be a sexual object. And look, I love being and feeling sexy. That’s awesome too. But it is only ONE of the powers of a woman’s body.

I have times when I can look at my postpartum mombod in the mirror and appreciate it, even love it, even find it sexy. Then there are days when my jeans rip and I feel like a total failure at life.

Because for me, it isn’t just that I feel a little bad because I don’t have a perfect body. No. I am hit with a feeling of complete unworthiness. Like I am a terrible human being.

This part of me that will always and only see myself as disgusting no matter what size I am isn’t something I can easily reason with.

I know that I’m worthy. I know that I’m a good person and a good mom. But the poison that causes me to think otherwise is deep. So deep it’s hard to even access or understand how much it pervades my view of myself.

There is one thing I DIDN’T want to do when this mountain of shame landed on me this morning… I didn’t want to ignore it. Yet, I didn’t want to get sucked under by it or use it as a means to punish myself for my perceived flaws.

What did I do? I tried to do the most love thing I could muster for myself in the moment.

I went online and I ordered two new pairs of jeans in a size up.

In January, I’ll be 33. While I haven’t had depression, anxiety, body image issues, and who knows what else literally my entire life, but it feels like it sometimes. Plus, I’ve certainly dealt with them my entire adult life.

The one trick that I’ve found to be able to live with it is total acceptance.

So today I didn’t even try to convince myself that I was hot. I didn’t try to convince myself that I deserved to feel sexy even though I’m not what my brains says I should be all the time.

Instead, I just said to myself, “I deserve to be cared for no matter what.”

I wasn’t arguing with the voice in my head about whether I’m good enough or not. What I did was sidestep this internal dialogue and decide that it doesn’t matter if I’m good enough. I deserve love and care whether the judge in my head says I’m good enough or not.

That means on Wednesday, I’ll be looking for a package with some new skinny and boyfriend jeans in them that will actually fit and feel totally comfortable on my cellulite covered ass.

Being a mom is hard. Adjusting to a new body and realizing “my jeans don’t fit” is hard. Loving your body every day when you still have the baby weight is hard.

But whatever happens, you deserve care, you deserve love, and you deserve to be your own ally no matter what that little voice in your head says.

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There are so many ways in which modern society does not fully support new moms, especially during postpartum. So one mom decided to do something about it.

When Lisa Chin began her journey of entrepreneurship, she thought about what she would pursue even if she didn’t make any money. Her choice? Creating a summit on postpartum for moms called the Fourth Trimester Summit.

The passion Lisa had for sharing as much information as possible for new moms spawned from her own experience as a new mom and comparing her postpartum experience to other moms.

After having a natural breech birth, Lisa made the transition to motherhood with the traditional Chinese postpartum ritual of Confinement.

Confinement is when a mother spends 30 days after giving birth relaxing in pj’s, bonding with baby, and being taken care of.

Lisa’s mom moved in with her for 30 days to help support her and her new family. It was a transformative and beautiful experience for Lisa.

But as Lisa went back to work and started chatting to them about what their postpartum experiences were like, it was a stark difference to her peaceful confinement. According to Lisa, most mothers are treated so poorly in their postpartum period, going back to work as soon as just a couple of weeks after birth.

Learning more about how many mothers struggle so hard postpartum inspired Lisa to start the Fourth Trimester Summit.

As moms, we sometimes walk blindly into our own fourth trimester (the three months after giving birth) with no idea how intense or difficult it can be. The Fourth Trimester Summit is a resource for moms to learn how mothers can have a healthier and happier postpartum.

The importance of building a new community for moms.

We used to have safety nets at moms. There was a village, there was a community for us to lean into during the most vulnerable points of time, like the fourth trimester, and now that is seriously lacking.

Lisa believes the norm nowadays of living in a nuclear family, just parents and children is actually bordering on toxic. Not having that broader support of extended family and community can be quite harmful to all members of the family.

The more we can create community through projects like the Fourth Trimester Summit, the more we can start to combat the isolation that we’ve created by embracing nuclear families, and help moms thrive during and after the fourth trimester.

Lisa and I talk more about the fourth trimester, all about motherhood, shame, and how we can all grow as moms and a community in this episode of the MomUp Show.

fourth trimester

More about Lisa:

Lisa Chin is a multi-passionate mother fervently following her inspirations and curiosities. While jumping from one project to another appears random, she has learned that she can’t ignore what her soul is called to create. Motherhood has been the secret sauce that unites her creative work giving her greater purpose as a woman, coach and citizen of this world.

When she is not wrangling spreadsheets or her kids, she can be found writing for her blog, Lisa for Real, where she explores and shares her thoughts on motherhood, fulfilling our purpose and lessons in self-awareness. She is also the founder and host of the Fourth Trimester Summit featuring over 40 sessions for new mamas on how to heal the body and mind, nurture our babies and build our village in the first three months after birth. Join her newsletter to learn what else she is brewing up next.

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One thing they never tell you about is the baby blues after birth. Sure, you’ve heard of postpartum depression, but the baby blues? It’s almost a little secret of postpartum that stays hidden… until you’re going through it.

(Quick disclaimer: I am not a doctor. I’m a mom like you, sharing my experience. If you have concerns please see your doctor, midwife, or other professional. I also always strongly refer people to BetterHelp, which offers virtual counseling services with licensed professionals if seeing someone for help in person isn’t an option for you.)

You can also always reach out to Postpartum Support International‘s hotline 24 hours a day at:

Call 1-800-944-4773 (4PPD) for English or Spanish, or Text 503-894-9453

(FYI. Some of the links below are affiliate links, meaning that at no additional cost to you, I make a small commission if you click through and make a purchase.)

The baby blues when you aren’t prepared

With my first daughter I remember after that initial wave of hormones dropped out on me a few days after birth, the baby blues hit me full force. Though really it was more like intense baby anxiety.

Every single night when the sun went down, I would experience this intense anxiety that seemed to physically grip my body. I came to hate nights. Until magically one day about two or three weeks postpartum it just went away.

I kept waiting for that claustrophobic feeling of being trapped inside an anxious body to pop up again, but it didn’t.

Many months later I did have a bout of depression, which could have been due to postpartum hormones, or just something that came up because I was acclimating to being a new mom. Either way, I could definitely see a difference between that initial period of wild mood swings and anxiety vs. a longer state of depression I went through months later.

With my second pregnancy and birth, the emotions and anxiety postpartum were still incredibly intense, but I was prepared for it. Being able to know what I was probably in for allowed me to get through that second postpartum period with a bit more ease. If I had know just how common those mood swings and anxiety are, the first would have been a little better too.

The baby blues postpartum are so common in fact that the American Pregnancy Association says 70-80% of moms experience it or some other form of postpartum depression.

What causes the baby blues?

The baby blues generally start within 3-5 days after giving birth and can linger for a couple of weeks. Symptoms include anxiety, weepiness, irritability, and more.

This happens because of the massive hormone swing that takes place around the 3-5 day post-birth mark. If you’re not expecting it and prepared, it can be pretty jarring. I know that for me, I had intense anxiety that I barely made it through.

How long do postpartum hormones last?

According to WebMD, the baby blues usually last around 10-14 days give or take a few days. Once you get past those initial couple of weeks, your hormones should be settling down, and you will slowly be settling into your new life either as a first-time mom, or introducing the new baby into your family.

What’s the difference between the baby blues and postpartum depression?

The biggest difference is when it happens.

Like we said above, the baby blues should be clearing up within the first couple of weeks. Postpartum depression, however, will hang on much longer, and it could come up at different points after having a baby, even many months postpartum.

What should I do if I think I have postpartum depression?

Tell someone. Reach out for help, preferably from a professional who has the skills and resources to ensure you are safely cared for.

One more time, the Postpartum Support International hotline is:

Call 1-800-944-4773 (4PPD) for English or Spanish, or Text 503-894-9453

As someone who has had both the baby blues and postpartum depression, I can say that the two had a different feeling for me. The baby blues were like PMS times a million. Mood swings, crying, anxiety. I felt pretty out of control of my feelings, but it also felt very visceral.

When I compare that to my personal experience of postpartum depression, the PPD was much slower. It crept up on me over the course of time, and if effected my thoughts and thinking patterns. I didn’t just feel the physical sensations of anxiety but had anxious thoughts that got a bit obsessive.

When I had the baby blues, as soon as I googled and learned that’s probably what I was having, I was able to cope pretty well. But when I had postpartum depression, it seemed to impede my ability to just function normally.

Of course, everyone’s experience will be different, and just to add more complexity to the issue, besides baby blues after birth and postpartum depression, there is also postpartum anxiety and postpartum psychosis among other postpartum disorders.

To read more you can check out this article.

For more on my personal experience with postpartum depression, you can read this article I wrote.

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Our 10 Most Viewed Posts of 2019

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Perfect IG Posts for Self-Care Inspiration

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The Best Way to Breastfeed Twins

The Best Way to Breastfeed Twins

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Learning to Love Your Body as a Mom

Learning to Love Your Body as a Mom

Who else struggles with learning to love your body as a mom? 🙋🏻‍♀️ I know I’m not the only one, right?

I’ve seen lots of posts about wearing your stripes as a mom, learning to love your body, and embracing those stretch marks.

Hell… I’ve written some of them! But deep down on the inside… I have not always loved my postpartum (or pre-baby) body. The prospect of learning to love your body, it’s easier said than done.

(Trigger Warning for body image and eating disorders.)

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Worthiness, Body Image, and Perfectionism

Is it possible to divorce body image from motherhood nowadays? Is it possible to divorce body image from just being a woman at all?

How much of your life have you spent worried about the way you looked?

How your body looked in the mirror?

How much fat you did or did not have?

If you’re like me, you remember spending all of Junior High worrying about how “fat” you were because one boy said when you put on a yellow coat people think you’re the school bus during homeroom.

It didn’t take long for me to dabble in bulimia until I found these diet pills my dad had been using. You know back in the early 2000’s they basically put cocaine in them? Not literally, but the drugs in the diet pills they sold back then were somewhere on the scale between caffeine and cocaine. No joke.

I used to pop a handful of them in the morning. I remember being totally buzzed and feeling like I was going to jump out of my seat in first-period Chemistry class.

Then, I eventually started smoking cigarettes.

Had that little habit from about 15-16 until I decided I wanted to start trying to get pregnant with my first child around 27. I even relapsed into smoking again while I wasn’t pregnant.

When I finally quit for the last time, I gained 20 lbs.

So beyond the stretch marks and saggy boobs, I was the heaviest I had ever been besides when actually pregnant.

The thing about it is that I was also the healthiest I had been my entire adult life with the added weight.

I wasn’t smoking, I was eating fairly healthy besides the occasional cheeseburger or piece of chocolate, I was walking nearly every day while pushing a double stroller, and I was emotionally stronger than ever before.

Why then was I unable to shake this feeling of complete unworthiness due to my weight?

This whole learning to love your body thing really is a bitch sometimes.

No matter how good of a mom I was. No matter how smart and knowledgable, resilient, strong, or spiritual, there was this nagging wound that just wouldn’t close.

This wound that told me I would never be enough until I was “perfect” on the inside and out. That I will always be unworthy of love, abundance, and praise unless I can check every single box on some imaginary list society has programmed into my mind.

And now, motherhood reveals itself as not a curse to my body, or something that has “ruined” my body.

(Check out this FB post I wrote in the throes of postpartum with my twins.)

 

Slaying Perfectionism with Your Postpartum Body

I have finally come to realize that becoming a mother and all that has meant for my body has been a blessing.

Why?

Not just because of the obvious results, those cherubic little humans who have stolen my heart. While they are the greatest gift, there is another one that I have been given.

I have a lot fewer fucks to give and a lot more reason to question the stories I had been fed my whole life.

Sure, I cringe a little bit when I get that bathing suit out. Is it just me, or are there none out there made for someone like me? Someone who isn’t quite plus-sized, but also a little chubby? Someone who’s 5’2 with like G cup breastfeeding boobies? They’re just not comfortable and not flattering.

My number one concern now isn’t how I look though. It’s literally ensuring the safety of my kids while at a pool or beach. I have less mental space to even consider my own appearance beyond that initial twinge when I get dressed.

And as I think about why I even have the little twinge and cringe as I look in the mirror while getting dressed, I stop and wonder why.

I wonder why I should actually not look at my body and see it as something sexy and beautiful. Perfect as it is.

There is nothing that is objectively wrong with it. Is there some rulebook that God himself (herself?) handed down to humans stating that stretch marks and flabby bellies were bad?

If anything, we seem to be specifically designed to NOT be perfect since in order to attain whatever the current definition of perfection is requires a lot of money, and potentially getting plastic surgery to physically alter your appearance. (Which, of course, if that’s your thing, go for it. Whatever makes you feel good.)

The more and more I thought about it, the more I felt this need to rebel.

This need to rebel even against the judge that resides in my own mind. To say…

“Yeah, I have a belly and stretch marks. Let me slip into this bikini and just show them off.”

No more hiding. Especially from myself. The truth is that when you worry about what your body looks like, no one really cares. Who else really cares what your body looks like, besides you?

Of course, there will always be that one negative judger out there, but they are truthfully few and far between.

Who Cares Anyway?

Everyone else is too worried about their own imperfections to really give two shits about yours.

And when I see a mom rocking a bathing suit and showing off all that she’s got going on, I just feel hella proud of her and slightly envious. Because as much as I try, and underneath any bravado and body positivity there is still this little voice I am working on rooting out that tells me I’m not good enough.

I see a mom in a bathing suit letting it all hang out, and I wish I was her because I assume she has more confidence than I do.

Though perhaps she’s just like me.

Trying.

Trying to love her body even if it isn’t “perfect” because it’s perfect for her. Learning to love your body isn’t something that happens overnight. It takes time and patience with yourself.

I haven’t mastered the art of body positivity yet. I may never. I might never be able to completely eradicate the judgmental voice inside of me, but I will be sure to do my best to love myself even when that voice is screaming at me.

How to Wean a Toddler from Breastfeeding

How to Wean a Toddler from Breastfeeding

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The Best Outdoor Toys for 1-Year-Old

The Best Outdoor Toys for 1-Year-Old

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28 Best Mom Hacks that Real Moms Swear By

28 Best Mom Hacks that Real Moms Swear By

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Cluster Feeding Tips to Survive Your Newborn Feeding Every Hour

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What Kind of Pregnancy Test Should I Buy?

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Paced Feeding Your Breastfed Baby

Paced Feeding Your Breastfed Baby

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3 First Month Pregnancy Tips to Start Off on a Good Foot

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Our 10 Most Viewed Posts of 2019

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The Best Way to Breastfeed Twins

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6 Self-Care Blogs Moms Should Follow

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Breastfeeding Newborn Tips to Make Breastfeeding Easier

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5 Tips for Surviving the First Trimester of Pregnancy

5 Tips for Surviving the First Trimester of Pregnancy

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5 Steps to a Self-Care Plan for Busy Moms

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First Time Breastfeeding Tips to Establish Nursing ASAP

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5 Early Pregnancy Tips for the First Weeks of Pregnancy

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Why is a Self-Care Checklist a Gamechanger for Moms?

Why is a Self-Care Checklist a Gamechanger for Moms?

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8 Nipple-Saving Breastfeeding Tips for Pain

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Be a Brave Mom and Healing as Your Grow

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Mother’s Quest: Navigating the Journey of Motherhood

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5 Indoor Winter Activities for Kids

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Cabin Fever and Motherhood: Emotional Self-Care in Winter

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8 Reasons to Love Your Body Postpartum

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The Fear of Loss in Motherhood

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Screw Instagram. The Messy Reality of Being a Mom

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Meal planning can overwhelm anyone. Add a newborn into the mix and it can be downright impossible! But these easy meals for new moms can be lifesavers!

These four tips for creating easy meals for new moms are so simple (and delicious). Mix and match to create a plan that works for you, without the usual stress that meal planning brings up. Because as a new mom, you’re probably sleep deprived and spending most of your time feeding that adorable tiny human. But YOU need nourished too

(FYI. Some of the links below are affiliate links, meaning that at no additional cost to you, I make a small commission if you click through and make a purchase.)

1. Keep it simple when meal planning with a new baby

  • Don’t add anything crazy to your meal plan in the first three months. No new recipes! Stay off Pinterest and Tasty. Now is not the time to try new things. Keep your meal plan basic so you don’t get overwhelmed. Feel free to download your FREE copy of my Monthly Meal Planning Guide so you can keep these ideas at your fingertips.
  • Make a big batch of chili, soup or a casserole and it eat it twice or even three times. Leftovers are king but they are especially necessary when you first have a baby. Pull out the crockpot standbys and tried and true family casseroles. Double the recipe if necessary so you can have a second dinner. Chili and cornbread one-night can easily become nachos by serving it over chips and adding cheese and sour cream. Make the really craveable casseroles or soups so your family will be excited for the leftovers! My Slow Cooker Chicken Chili is always a hit in my house. (Pictured below)
  • Keep your family classics in rotation. Stick to the dishes you know best and repeat them like crazy. No one will mind if you serve tacos, spaghetti and chili every week. A. They’re just happy to be eating. B. You just had a baby, so they don’t get to complain about anything.

2. Get help from the store to simplify meal planning with a new baby

  • Rotisserie Chickens. Grabbing a rotisserie chicken every week is an affordable, convenient and healthy dinner option. You can either carve it and serve with a simple salad and bakery bread or shred up the meat and make a quick chicken salad or soup.
  • Freezer Section Meals are a great staple to add to your meal plan. These can be as simple as frozen pizza and a bagged salad kit, frozen Trader Joe’s Mandarin Chicken & Rice (pictured below) or frozen meatballs you can throw in the crockpot with jarred spaghetti sauce and serve in rolls for Meatball Subs. If you can stock up on some of these items before baby comes, even better!
  • Salads. Grab a garden salad kit, a pack of grape tomatoes, some deli turkey, a bag of shredded cheese and then hard boil a couple eggs. Chop it all up and you have a super simple chef salad that everyone will love. The options for this one are endless, but that combo is my personal favorite.

3. Sandwiches & breakfast for dinner are a new mom’s BFF

  • Hit up the deli section to make yummy wraps and sandwiches. The deli section is your best friend during these first three months. Deli meats and cheeses as well as chicken salad make great entree sandwiches or wraps. They also gave really yummy side dishes like pasta salad, potato salad and rice pilaf. Grab some chips and you’re good to go!
  • Breakfast for Dinner ideas are endless and so easy. It can be as simple as scrambled eggs, toast and fruit or you can take it a step further and whip up a breakfast casserole like this Breakfast Bubble Bake (pictured below)

4. Take help when offered (and don’t be afraid to ask!)

  • If someone offers to bring a meal, ask when they want to drop it off! Don’t you dare pass on help when it’s offered. People want to help you! If someone says “I’d love to bring a meal sometime.” Respond back with “That would be great! How about Thursday, the 7th?” Accepting help when it’s offered is truly the best thing you can do for you and your new babe.
  • Get take-out at least once a week and ditch the side of guilt it comes with. If you aren’t a family that typically eats take-out, you should start for the first three months of baby’s life. Just once a week and it can be as simple as fried chicken from the local grocery store that your husband picks up on his way home from work. Or maybe a local pizza place does a $10 Monday night special, make that your take-out night. Just embrace it for this crazy season of life.
  • Ask friends to bring meals in lieu of gifts. Now this is easier said than done but if someone does ask you what you could use for the new baby or what size clothes the baby is in, simply ask for a dinner instead. Something as simple as “That’s so sweet of you. While we would appreciate any gifts you bring, the thing we could use the most right now is a home cooked meal.” I find that people really respond well to that response.

So, there you have it, my tried and true tips for getting you family fed the first three months of newborn-life. You don’t have to implement them all but hopefully you got a few ideas to keep with you. These easy meals for new moms will make that fourth trimester sooo much simpler. Make sure you stay well nourished for that little squish, mama, and let us know in the comments which of these easy meals for new moms you can’t wait to try!

Hi! I’m Taran and I make meal planning easy, so you can stress less at dinner.

I love all things coffee related, watching The Office reruns with my husband and chasing my daughters around (most days).

I love helping busy moms make monthly meal plans with dinners they can cook quickly that their families will love. When I’m not in the kitchen you can find me hanging with my friends, perusing Goodwill or planning my next state to see!

Find me at: www.undomesticmom.com or www.facebook.com/theundomesticmom

 

 

 

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